You really need to just click on over and watch the video, then read the accompanying article, then watch the video again. It is just so right on. I have nothing more to say.
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Posted by Laura P. Schulman, MD, MA on March 20, 2017
Ryan Mauro, the chief security analyst for the Muslim organization The Clarion Project, exposes the hypocrisy of CAIR (Committee on American Islamic Relations) and another of its affiliates. CAIR employs the same tactics as one of its brother organizations, Hamas, handing out clothing, food, and other necessities to needy Muslim children, thus endearing itself to the Muslim community at large.
We saw this in Gaza after Israel unilaterally withdrew in 2005, which lead to a popular vote that resulted in victory for Hamas. Things changed **just a little** after the election (I won’t go into the armed coup against the slightly trailing Fatah, which is another political mess). Funds meant for infrastructure, food, clean water, and sanitation were diverted to…well, let’s just say for now that they were not used for their intended purpose. I really want you to read this Clarion report, so I won’t allow myself to get diverted into the reasons Gaza became its own island.
I encourage you all to explore The Clarion Project’s work on the rights of Muslim girls and women to live safely, free from the terrors of “honor killings” child marriage, and FGM (female genital mutilation.) The menu on their website will direct you.
I very much encourage you to watch their excellent documentary, The Honor Diaries, in which a group of Muslim women discuss their experiences openly and honestly.
In the spirit of these brave women, I refuse to be silenced by the institutionalized bullying promoted by a large segment of the Muslim community. I refuse to dry up and blow away. Because I am Jewish, of course anything I say is written off, because we all “know” that Jews are inherently suspect: especially Israeli Jews, who, as we all “know,” steal organs from Arab children and make bread with their blood. This is not some fantasy, but was told to me by an Israeli Arab woman with whom I shared a hospital room in Jerusalem! And her 9 year old daughter repeated this to me, when I asked her what she learned in
school about Jewish people.
With that, I hand you over to Ryan Mauro, and I do hope you will take a minute to read his article.
Posted by Laura P. Schulman, MD, MA on June 22, 2016
Pam Tillis co-wrote the song that goes, “Just call me Cleopatra, everybody, ’cause I’m the Queen of Denial.” If you want to see her video, which is just wall-to-wall packed with cultural stereotypes (somewhat embarrassing) but pretty funny, look here. It would give Edward Said, author of Orientalism, an epileptic fit.
When I was an undergraduate at the University of Chicago, I took a graduate-level seminar in Cultural Anthropology. There, they liked to throw around words like “hermeneutics.” When I asked what that meant, the professor grew red in the face and told me that if I didn’t know, then I shouldn’t be asking. Hmm. Kind of like my mother’s favorite retort when I’d ask her what I’d done to deserve punishment: “If you don’t know, then I’M certainly not going to tell you!
I don’t believe they knew what the word “hermeneutics” meant (it’s the theory of text interpretation, especially Biblical or scholarly). I found out, though, quite by accident. We were supposed to read Orientalism and write a paper on it to discuss in seminar. So I read the book. I thought it was a pompous, reverse-racist take on the “Western” ideas in art, music, film, and literature supposedly misrepresenting the Arab world. But I have a nasty habit of reading footnotes and actually reading the original sources. It takes a bit longer, but you can discover amazing things: like, for example, that the primary sources cited in the footnotes say something quite different than the author, in this case Said, made them out to be.
I brought a stack of these primary sources (we had libraries full of real books back then) to show my “hermeneutics” professor what I had found. But oh dear, it seems I had shot a sacred cow! For the sin of debunking Said’s theory by means of his own references (not to mention proving that he had committed a crime by misrepresenting the references as supporting his theory, when in fact they often said exactly the opposite of what he said they did), I was hauled before a tribunal (hauled before a tribunal! I am not kidding you). I was only a nobody undergraduate, but they didn’t want this accidental discovery of mine to get out. I had to withdraw my paper and promise never to mention it again, if I wanted to get my degree from that venerable wellspring of hermeneutics.
Last week I wrote about the deplorable scene that erupted when I came out to my parents that I had been forced to resort to prostitution when I ran away from them at the age of 16. So far, neither of them has asked me why I ran away. I take that back: my father did once, when he thought he was dying, and I couldn’t bring myself to tell him. I have wondered ever since if I did the right thing or not. I tell myself that I didn’t want to distress him when he was so ill, but I really think it’s fear. In fact, I know it’s fear.
The result of my revelation was a major catastrophic scene, blaming me for depriving them of their only child, and therefore I deserved whatever I got. Not surprisingly, I had a major meltdown as a result of all that, and a flareup of physical symptoms as well as some serious PTSD flashbacks, nightmares, what have you.
I got an ugly email from my mother the next day, accusing me of accusing her of putting me out on the street to work as a prostitute (huh?), and of committing the crime of saying such things in the presence of my father, a “sick old man.”
Rather than engage with her and start a war, I rolled over like my dog does when she thinks she has done something bad, in appeasement, so I won’t scold her for peeing on the carpet. I wrote her back and said I was sorry that she had perceived such things, that I never intended that she should perceive such things, and that I certainly never intended that she should perceive that I had accused her of such things.
Indeed, I did not roll over so far as to say that I was sorry if I hurt her or sorry to deprive her of her only child, etc., because those are delusions. I am in no way sorry for crimes I did not commit. I am in no way sorry that I read Said’s primary sources and exposed him as a liar, and I am in no way sorry that I came out and told my parents that I was forced to prostitute myself when I ran away from them.
Here’s what I am sorry for: I’m sorry that I don’t have the courage to tell them why I left. I’m sorry that I don’t have the courage to face my mother and tell her that her screaming and her name-calling and her gaslighting and her growling “I can’t stand you” time and time again, drove me to the brink of suicide and I had to get out of there. I’m sorry that I can’t tell her that for those reasons and more, I preferred to live on the street and get raped again and again. At least that was an honest danger.
But everyone loves her. Just today someone came to visit and was gushing about how sweet she is. I had to get out of there. Yes, I know that’s the way people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder operate. They are just so sweet, such pillars of the community, such advocates for the underdog–on the outside. But on the inside of the book, there’s a rat stinking. A living lie that never gets past the door, and nobody is reading the footnotes.
And so, the day after the messy tribunal, and after the non-apologetic apology, I was expecting the cold shoulder, the “silent treatment” as she likes to call it. That’s what I can usually expect after an outburst of honesty. But wonder of wonders, she was just as cheerful and chipper as can be! We can’t afford to actually deal with this, because I’m needed to help care for my dad, who is indeed a “sick old man.” And it seems that we can’t afford the possible consequences of driving me away again with insults and gaslighting. So I was spared the usual aftermath of a moment of honesty. I can’t say it’s not a relief. But I’m still spooky, waiting for the other shoe to fall.
So for now there is a lull in the action. I’m debating whether to dive back into anonymity with this blog. I’m terrified that sooner or later, she or one of her friends will find it and out me. I mean, I’ve already outed myself, but I’m starting to regret it, because of the possible consequences. I’m trying real hard to stay in the footnotes and not be afraid of the tribunal. But I don’t know if I can hold out with this fear and tension much longer, because she hasn’t read the references, and wouldn’t believe them if she did.
On the other hand, what’s the price of living in fear?
Posted by Laura P. Schulman, MD, MA on December 18, 2013