Kind Of Freaky, But Necessary to My Sanity

I just blocked somebody from commenting on my blog.  I felt bad doing it, but this person arouses feeling of rage every time I see their comments.  I feel like I shouldn’t feel this way.  I know exactly what they would say if they saw this.  What’s even more aggravating is that they post from multiple locations, resulting in multiple IP addresses that I have to block individually.  I feel like a creep doing it, but I have to save my sanity, what’s left of it, and take care of my high blood pressure.

What I really want is to block this person from even accessing my blog (actually I have a couple of stalkers–yes, really–that I’d like to block) but according to WP  there’s no way to do that other than making it a private blog, and that would mean being invisible to the wonderful world of blogging friends who have found my blog, usually via other mental health bloggers.  So there’s nothing to do about that.

Please know that this is a tiny group of people that I know personally, from the distant past, and have serious issues with, who found my blog through various searches.  It does not apply to my “bloggie” community, at all, at all.

Have any of you had to take measures to prevent unwanted comments or lurkers or stalkers?   What did you do about it?

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  1. It is not those who know they are ‘crazy’ that we need to watch out for

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  2. I publish the comments. I probably shouldn’t as it could create more hate. But I wish everybody to see the mentality of some people.

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    • I hear that. My “unwelcome commenters” don’t say anything overtly hateful. It’s just that they’re people who have hurt me deeply who somehow assume they can just continue being part of my life, including my blog, which they can’t.

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  3. In three years of blogging I just recently, for the first time, had to block someone. He was disrespectful to me and my readers and just ranted on and on. I even got a couple of emails from readers saying how he made them so uncomfortable. I feel I gave him a fair chance, asking him to comment in a more respectful manner, but it just didn’t happen. Sorry you are going through this………I do find it comforting, though, to know that 99% of my readers are fantastic people!

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    • Wow, I’m sorry you had that awful experience! I’ve had that happen on one occasion and simply deleted the comments, but if someone persists in being hateful, there’s nothing you can do but block them. Indeed, we are blessed to have a wonderful supportive community of readers and fellow bloggers!

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  4. So far, I haven’t had any problems on WP but a couple of years ago we had a huge problem on FB. It was so bad for my husband that he closed his account and refuses to open one again. WP is a different animal and I’m hoping things stay this way, but I a glades can delete and block. We’re not here to be harrassed or bullied it made uncomfortable. Stick to your guns Laura. Some people are much better when avoided altogether.
    Blessings. Susan ❤

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  5. How horrible but I think almost everyone I know with big blogs has had a stalker or someone they had issues with. Other than putting all comments in moderation and deleting “her” as soon as you see the comment, I am clueless, not being a big blogger with any stalkers. So sorry that something so special has bitter side effects.

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    • Well, I wouldn’t call this a BIG blog…imagine what the blogs with tens of thousands of followers have to deal with! Since these people are people I know personally, I’m sure they will get the idea they’re not welcome and blow away. Or they won’t, but at least I won’t see them!

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  6. As for blogging, I’ve had a few people who gave me an itchy feeling without my being able to point to anything specific. So far I’ve been fortunate I guess.
    Right now the blog issue puzzling me is that my blog seems to have become popular with a group of people I’d rather not have as fans, but as long as they behave themselves I’ll deal with it.

    In my offline life, I have periodically realized that a relationship was destructive for me, and I’ve been resolute in breaking it off. I used to worry that I was “heartless” or a “quitter” but I’ve come to the conclusion that I have a right and responsibility for my own well-being that overrides someone else’s desire to stay connected.

    I commend you for doing whatever you have to do to maintain your equilibrium.

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  7. Oh hon, that sounds awful and you’re completely right to do what you’ve done. Self-preservation should always come first. For what they’re worth, here are some <> from good old London Town…

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  8. strange, the word ‘hugs’ were deleted from my comment above just leaving the brackets?

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  9. So far so good. No stalkers here. 😆
    I just had to comment to be sure it wasn’t me you blocked … ha!

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    • No, none of my dear bloggies! Just a few annoying people from the “physical world” who don’t “get it” that their annoying comments are not appreciated….You’re always welcome here, my dear!

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  10. I’ve black listed 2 people on WordPress. Comments go to my spam where they belong. I frequently block people on various social media sites. Doesn’t bother me to do it!

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    • Good job! I have no compunctions about blocking annoying or abusive people on FB, which seems to happen fairly recently given the mere fact that I hold Israeli citizenship, regardless of my middle-of-the-road political stance…it seems the fact that I am Israeli is enough to cause people to make assumptions that I am some kind of extremist which I am not, and I get all kinds of flaming comments/messages. Good thing you can block people!

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  11. I don’t think blocking people is freaky, I think it’s a healthy choice in that you are not trying to a nice, polite little girl for everyone, and are taking care of yourself, instead. VIrtual and actual reality are tricky enough without being assaulted by trolls, even if you know them.
    N’shikot!

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  12. Gotta tell ya……It’s really sad when people have to stoop so LOW! I had a few I had to deal with as well. I just put them in “SPAM” and move on. What’s really even MORE SAD is when it is a “Estranged Family Member” who has NO CLUE of understanding. SO I do understand your frustrations. Don’t people have better things to do with their TIME? Guess Not. It just shows their Stupidity……”JUST SAYIN” Keep doing what your doing! Your helping MANY out here 🙂 God Bless, Author Catherine Lyon XoXo

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  13. Aargh! Well I have someone who I do not want seeing my blog. They hurt me badly and I do not want them seeing what I share and express. Unfortunately there is no way to block other than going Private – I was close … several months ago … I was close!

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    • Ugh, sorry to hear it. I wish there was some kind of Blog Ray that would stick them in the eye when they snoop! Not a nice thought, but then sometimes I have thoughts that are not nice….

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  14. songtothesirens

     /  December 10, 2013

    I have had spammers that I considered stalkers of a kind. They respond to some post or another usually trying to sell some product or book on how to “get happy”. I do not feel bad for blocking these people. But, as far as actual people that I have known in the past, there is only one that follows, and I do not mind him doing so. We have hurt each other in the past but have mutually agreed that it is just weird water under the bridge. If I had an honest stalker that I really didn’t want reading my blog, I would have little problem blocking that person. My own sanity comes first.

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    • First of all, I must congratulate you on your excellent taste in Gravitars. Well done!

      And I’m glad you’re relatively “unstalked” except for the annoying spammers. I usually don’t look at spam even if it makes it past Askimet. Once in a while I do look at it and have found some real doozies that I’ve used as fodder for posts, like “Do Mad People Fall Sick?” LOL!!!

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      • songtothesirens

         /  December 10, 2013

        Thank you for the gravatar compliment…..I like yours too 😀

        I do not get the spammers. If I wanted to read a book on how to be or find happiness, I would look for it. Spammers are the equivalent of snake oil salesmen from days gone past. Sorry you have stalkers. That would really suck!

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        • Yeah, I can’t grok the spammers either. I wonder how many people actually click through to them, and how many of those actually buy whatever they’re hawking? Crazy world. As far as my stalkers, if their asses are not psychically burning up by now, they will if they show up in my life again!

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  15. Not really, but I gotta say that that is one confrontation I’m sharpening my knives for!!
    Anyway, you said something about leaving your house that you wanted me to check out… I can’t find it!

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  16. Izzat supposed to be some kinda wise CRACK????

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